International Adoption Clinics

July 23, 2009 at 1:21 pm | Posted in Uncategorized | 1 Comment
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A couple weeks ago the boys went in for their follow-up physicals at the International Adoption Clinic in Minneapolis.   Having an international  clinic on your team is a great advantage.

  • They recognize illnesses that children from third world countries face.
  • They have better treatment resources that a ‘regular’ pediatrician office would.
  • They evaluate all forms of development to determine if a child is progressing normally in their new environment – behaviorally, emotionally, physically, relationally and psychologically.
  • They are looking for different things because the experience of an internationally adopted children is different from the experience of a child born into a blood-related, American family.

We went to the U of M clinic here on the recommendation of another family and were thrilled to discover than the doctor assigned to our boys has taught medicine in Kampala for many years and is well versed, not only in tropical diseases, but also in the specific conditions of the very city where our boys were born.     ALSO, she is an adoptive mother of two children from Uganda.  We immediately felt at ease with her and have thoroughly enjoyed our visits.  (Philip and Zach enjoyed their visits much less since theirs included needles!)  But, what a gift she has been.    If you’re considering international adoption, look for a clinic in your area!

[The good news about our boys is that they are both reasonably healthy!]

Mutual blessing

July 16, 2009 at 7:49 am | Posted in Uncategorized | 4 Comments

Myth: Adoption is a great way to “save” or “rescue” a child.

Reality: Adoption is defined by mutual blessing – both being a blessing and being blessed…..

Adoption IS about rescuing children in part.   But it’s greater than that.

Over the last year people have complimented us ~ saying something like, “That’s such a great thing you guys did!”  or “Wow… to think what you’ve done for these kids!”

Now, I can take a compliment pretty well.   If someone compliments my pretty red shoes, I’ll probably agree with them.   “I love these shoes too!   Thanks!”   But when I’m complimented on perceived acts of heroics, it’s a lot harder.   And especially in the case of compliments like those above, I find myself groping for a way to respond.

We’ve heard, “Your boys are so lucky!”    And really…. I know where they’re coming from.    But, inside I also know a different truth.    Granted, Philip and Zach’s needs were both profound and obvious.   My need for rescue however, even though it was more discreet, was just as present.

The real truth is ~ all of us in this story have been rescued.

Yes…. my husband and I ‘rescued’ two kids from the status of being orphans.   And we rescued them from some other things too probably.   But it was all in an instant.   They were orphans and then they weren’t.   They were destined for a certain life, and then they became destined for another one.   They were alone in the world and then they had a family.

Their rescue was an event.

My rescue, however, is a process.    Through this adoption, I am continually being rescued from my ever-present inclination to put myself first.    I’m being rescued from my demandingness and my habitual impatience.   I’m being rescued from a tendency to manipulate rather than love and am learning more about unconditional love than I have ever known.  And that rescue will be on going for at LONG time to come.   Maybe people should say to Philip and Zach, “Wow!  Aren’t your parents lucky!?”

Adoption = Mutual Blessing.

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